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Saturday, February 1, 2025

Rebuilding our homes and ourselves

Noor Alyacoubi
It’s been almost two weeks since the ceasefire came into effect in Gaza City, yet I haven’t adjusted to the calm we were deprived of for so many months.
A Palestinian man surveys the rubble of destroyed buildings in the al-Rimal neighborhood of Gaza City on January 30, 2025. (Photo: Omar Ashtawy/APA Images) 
A Palestinian man surveys the rubble of destroyed buildings in the al-Rimal neighborhood of Gaza City on January 30, 2025. (Photo: Omar Ashtawy/APA Images)
Fifteen months of war stripped me of my humanity, comfort, and freedom. I even seem to have lost my ability to cry, even though everything around me — broken homes, shattered dreams — begs for tears. My mind feels tangled, my body tense, and my heart heavy. Normalcy feels like a distant stranger I don’t know how to welcome.
I imagined that the end of the war would bring relief and freedom to walk the streets without fear. But while I now walk without the dread of airstrikes, I feel like a newcomer to the city where I was born and raised.
The scars of war are everywhere, and I can’t look away. A bombed-out house. A charred mosque. A burned-down shop. A bulldozed street. A torn and empty tent. The acrid smell of ash lingers in the air. Broken glass crunches underfoot. Everywhere I turn, rubble whispers stories of what once was. The sights echo the deafening sound of shelling that defined 470 days of war.
Though I no longer feel fear, I don’t recognize my surroundings. The devastation is so vast that I avoid walking alone, afraid of getting lost in what was once familiar terrain. Cars are scarce, leaving us no choice but to walk. When my husband Mohammed and I venture out, I repeatedly ask him: “Where are we?”
 
Gaza feels lifeless, stripped of its colors. Once-green trees are gone. Streets are gray with rubble. Buildings stand like pale skeletons, hollowed out by violence. Darkness shrouds the city, a vivid reminder of the brutality that has scarred every corner of life. And yet, amid the rubble, people insist on holding onto life, determined to rebuild and pursue some semblance of normalcy.
Searching for normalcy
Markets are now flooded with goods we hadn’t seen since October 2023 — chocolates, chips, meat, vegetables, and fruits. Every day, people, myself included, rush to the markets, eager to see what’s new. We want to comfort our souls with something delicious — anything other than the canned, rationed food we survived on for so long.
A few days ago, I made grilled chicken wings for the first time since before the war. My husband and I were thrilled, watching them sizzle in the pan and inhaling the aroma of fat and spices. We couldn’t wait for them to finish cooking.
But as we ate, our excitement vanished. Sad memories crept into our minds. We remembered the days we survived on a single bowl of soup, how we would stretch half a loaf of bread over an entire day, or the gritty, bitter taste of bread made from animal feed, which we forced ourselves to swallow down because there was no white flour.
“It’s been so long since we’ve eaten something normal,” my husband told me.
In May 2024, the Israeli army began allowing some goods into Gaza, offering a brief reprieve from animal feed and expired products. But canned foods, such as beans, peas, or corned beef, became our staple diet — foods that left our stomachs crying for something fresh. Ironically, though the new food entering Gaza brings no real joy, we still eat. We eat to nourish our bodies, to feel like normal people eating normal food again.
The other day, I insisted that Mohammed take me and our two-year-old daughter, Lya, to see the sea for the first time. I wanted her to experience the beauty of Gaza’s coastline, even if she’s too young to understand.
After some persuading, he agreed. We walked nearly a kilometer to Al-Samer Junction in central Gaza, where cars occasionally pass. After 20 minutes of waiting, we finally caught a ride to a point near the beach and walked the last 500 meters on foot.
Lya giggled the entire way. It was her first time in a car, and she squealed with delight at the feel of the air through the windows and the bumps in the road. Her laughter brought us a flicker of joy.
But when we reached the beach, I couldn’t feel happy. I turned to Mohammed and asked him, “Why don’t I feel happy? Is it normal?” He replied, “Neither do I.” We fell silent.
The Gaza beach was once vibrant, filled with families enjoying picnics, playing games, and soaking in the sea breeze. It was so crowded that finding a spot to sit was a challenge.
Now, it feels lonely, as if the sea itself is mourning.
A home without family
Reuniting with my parents and hugging them tightly was all I longed for during the war. But here lies the deepest heartbreak. Displaced from their home in western Gaza in November 2023, my family endured a harrowing journey from Gaza City to Khan Younis to Rafah, before seizing a rare opportunity to flee to Egypt.
As others prepare for joyous reunions, cleaning their shelters, preparing meals, and creating spaces for their families, I feel a hollow ache. I am happy for them, truly, but I have no one to wait for.
Sometimes, I visit my family’s partially destroyed house, seeking a sense of connection, a fragment of the life we once had. But every visit leaves me in tears.
I see their house, pale and dusty, its corners filled with echoes of the past. I imagine my mother in the kitchen, welcoming me with a smile, preparing my favorite dishes. I picture my father on the sofa, watching TV, my siblings beside him, my nephews playing quietly nearby.
But these are just memories. The house is empty now, and so am I.
Gaza has always been resilient, its people unyielding in the face of unimaginable hardship. But as we walk through the rubble, eat our first real meals in months, and attempt to find joy in simple pleasures, one question lingers: How do we rebuild, not just our homes, but ourselves? When will Gaza’s laughter return? When will mine?

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